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There’s something that happens when people walk into a room that was made for them. Take a second and imagine a room built for you with you in mind. This is a place where it’s understood that you’re arriving with something real, something tender, something that you’ve never said out loud before. You can feel the difference immediately.
When you’re in that space, the air feels a little different. The people that are there tend to be a little different too, a little more like you. They’re down to laugh and they’re down to discuss those very real, very tender things too.
I’ve been intentionally creating spaces like this for a long time. They’ve taken all sorts of shapes too; book clubs, meditation circles, movement spaces, growth rooms, community discussions, journal clubs, and so on. I’ve held all of them with care, attention to what vulnerability actually requires, with an open door and a clear intention. What’s amazing is that every single time, people showed up, revelations were had, tears were shed, breakthroughs shared with new and old friends. I used to think that was about the contents of my slideshows (lol), or the curriculums I’d create, or maybe even the topic we’d gathered around but it was actually the space.
Here’s what I mean by that: a space, a real one, a held one, does something that information alone cannot do. A space like this creates the conditions for you to meet yourself in front of other people and that second part matters more than we usually admit. The whole thing: showing up and listening to someone else move through something, finding yourself in their story or being asked the right question at the right time. Those moments show up when the space is created for it with intention and proper guidance.
We think breakthroughs are private events or solo moments of clarity in the shower or on a walk. Sometimes they are, but some of the deepest ones happen in rooms with our communities. When someone else says what you’ve been thinking and you realize you’re not alone in it, or when you say it out loud and the room holds you and suddenly it’s true in a way it wasn’t five minutes ago, it’s a different kind of validation.
I’ve shown up in a lot of spaces myself as a participant and a student. What I noticed is that the spaces that changed me were the ones where I felt safe enough to actually arrive. Where I didn’t have to perform okayness or manage how I was being perceived. It’s where I could feel how teachers thought about their students and what they wanted them to leave with. Those spaces will have me loyal for a lifetime.
Those spaces come to life because someone thought about what people would need when they walked in and the room was built around the human experience of being in it, not just the content being delivered inside it.
It makes me think a lot about what it means to be intentional about where you place yourself. We talk a lot about habits and routines and environment design when it comes to productivity, but we don’t talk nearly enough about the spaces we choose for our inner work. Who’s in the room with you when you’re trying to move something that has been stuck?! Is the container you’re in is actually built to hold what you’re bringing to it?! Are the people around you are in motion or in waiting?! It matters.. a lot.
Unfortunately, I think a lot of people are doing their most important work in spaces that weren’t really built for it.. alone, in their heads, with no one to witness the movement, no one to hold them to it, no one to notice when something shifts.
This is why I built my latest bb, The Lab. It’s an intentional, small group coaching community. Each week space is held for people who are ready to close the healing loop and get in motion. The space is there for people to be witnessed, worked, redirected when needed, and built into something real.
I’ve seen what happens in spaces like that and I’ve watched people arrive carrying something heavy and leave lighter, because they finally had somewhere to put it down and look at it clearly.
The next cycle starts April 20. If you’ve been waiting for the right room, this might be it. Reserve your spot in The Lab, we’ve got a few seats left!